I’ve seen a lot of people in my life who are always running away from problems. They hate the system, society, and even their family and friends. However, if people would look at themselves, I think they’d see some issues inside to face as well.
This article isn’t going to be bashing anybody, or any of the above-mentioned social structures. Instead, I want to write an article that’s a roadmap to examining your heart. Find your issues, and stop running away from them.
A companion article I wrote some time ago, was called Snowboarding anxiety. While I know the title doesn’t make sense, the topic will definitely hit home. We all live in fear, especially during these dark days of covid-19, but if you keep your head, and balance emotion with logic (too much of either will lead to a weird place), you’ll come out on top, and it’ll be an amazing place to be.
Is It Bad To Run Away From Your Problems?
Running Away From Your Problems Won’t Help Solve Them. Instead, You’re Putting A Gap Between Yourself And The Issue. The Gap Can Stop You From Finding A Solution, Blind You From The Issues At Hand, And Even Give You A False Sense Of Security. The Only Real Fix, Is Facing Them Head On.
Why Are You Running?
This is a question only you can answer, however for the base of this, you need to look for fear.
- Where does your heart have the most fear?
- How did that fear get there?
- What experiences happened in your life, and caused you to develop that fear?
Notice I’m writing a lot about fear, running away from your problems is 99.9% of the time fear related. If you remember in school they teach about fight or flight. In general, people are on a spectrum of what they do more, however, I believe the older you get, the more it gets polarized.
How To Stop Running From The Issue.
If you read this, and you’re breathing. You still have potential. Until you draw your last breath, there is a reason you’re here on this planet, and you were created for something greater than running away from your problems.
Mainstream society has done us all a great disservice. People once believed they were important, they believed in individuality, and that one person could make a difference. Now we believe we’re just a speck of dust floating around in a galaxy.
What good can 1 speck of dust do? So instead of doing anything, we run away from everything. I want to change that mentality.
You were made with a purpose, and you aren’t just a speck of stardust destined to return into the cosmic void.
Why Do I Always Run Away?
Running away is a learned behavior, it feels safer because you’re getting away from what scares you. However, while putting distance between you and pain, things start to work against you.
Problems are there to be faced, not pushed aside. Problems will never disappear until they are faced, and you can ignore them all you want, but they’ll just keep piling up higher and higher, and daily you’ll feel more trapped. This causes major hysteria in some people.
Stop Giving Into Hysteria
Remember when I said emotion should be balanced by logic? It works both ways. One of the things that bugs (lightly bugs me) me about Star Trek is the Vulcan culture.
Here we have a culture that had emotions and feelings, then due to wars and other issues decided to cut them off, and create logic as their God. If this was a human culture, I’d say they cut away their humanity. I understand it’s a fictional universe, but you can’t cut away your emotions. They make you who you are.
However, we do need logic to coral those emotions. When you let your emotions run amuck. You give into hysteria, and then you start running away from your problems.
Has Running Away Ever Solved Your Problems?
Running Away from your problems will never solve anything. Even if you can break the bonds and be free, they’ll always be in the back of your head, bugging you, and that’s the rare occasion.
Most of the time, your problems will resurface, and they always come back at the worst time. This is why I always tell people to stand and fight. Face the issues in front of you, and don’t back down from them. You might not receive the resolution you want, but most likely it’ll be better than a nonresolution.
3 Tips To Stop Running Away
Now we get to the hard part, how do I stop running away from my problems? For many people this is going to be a life-changing decision, and I know that sounds cheesy but it’s totally true.
Most likely if you’re reading this article, you’re already running. The first step to facing your problems is that you have to stop running. This can be done in a number of ways. I’d recommend doing whatever relates to your problem at hand, the more you do, the more you can succeed.
- Find a friend/Family Member/Counselor and speak with them.
- Decide to make that phone call, or have that tough conversation.
- Stop the fear from growing, and look at everything logically.
For example, almost 3 years ago I reconnected with my dad. We hadn’t spoken in 18 years due to abuse I’d received from him as a child. Now I’d learned he had cancer, and I wanted to find closure in my life.
Before I did anything I had multiple conversations with people about what I was doing. These people were close to me, some were family, and some were friends that I trust.
After speaking with them, and feeling like I was ready, I decided to make a phone call, however the fear in my heart grew, and I needed to fight it. It took me a week to finally pick up the phone and call my dad.
Because of this, we were able to reconcile, he’s passed away now, but I don’t have regrets anymore about him and me. We both found peace, and more of this story can be found in my book Hurricane Jerald.
Turn And Face Your Problems/Fears
After you stop running away, you can turn and face your problems. This is where you need to make a choice. Much like I wrote above about the phone call, you need to know what you’re going to do, and let nothing change it.
A Little Encouragement
A lot of people at this point are thinking that they can’t do this. There’s no way. I thought the same thing about my father. When you’re ready you’ll know, and that’s when it’s time to fight.
I believe in you, and know that you will get through whatever issue you’re facing. You’ve been placed here on this planet for a reason, and you need to accomplish that. There’s a purpose inside of you, it’s time to stop running and start fighting.