Have you ever been in a place, where you don’t know what to do. Your body is exhausted, mentally you’ve shut down, and the situation can’t be fixed. In despair you cry out for help, but nobody answers, and you believe there’s nobody that can help you. You’re losing hope, and you start to despair. Once you begin this tailspin, everything falls apart.
Losing Hope: This is The Act of Realization Of Failure. When The Mind Believes It’s Alone, And Nothing It Can Do Will Change The Situation. The Heart Follows In Total Agreement. This is Because The Emotions Have Gone Crazy, And You Aren’t Thinking Straight. Usually It Leads To A Downward Spiral Of Emotions, And More Pain.
In reality, there’s always a way out. The best thing you can do in these situations is take a deep breath and shut your brain down. You can do this for a few seconds or a few minutes. It’s hard to accomplish, but it just might save and refocus you.
Quiet Your Emotions To Stop Losing Hope
Most of the time when we have lost hope and we begin to despair, our emotions have run rough shod over us. It’s hard to think straight, and even more difficult to hear God. In these situations, when emotions are running wild. Somehow you have to get them in check.
To tame my emotions, I do the following:
- I Go Snowboarding Or Work ON My Snowboard Blog
- I’ll Exercise
- Go For A Walk
- Write Another Book
- Work On A Hobby
- Play A PS4 Game
- Do Something To Shift My Mind And Thought Processes.
I do this to help shift my emotions. When my heart is out of whack I make crazy decisions based on feelings, and those decisions have never turned out well for me. Humans need a healthy balance between logic and emotion. One overpowering the other is never a good thing.
Stop Losing Hope And Look At Your Options
Once you’ve got your emotions in check, it’s time to reassess your situation. Some circumstances might very well cause your emotions to go berserk again. Be aware of that, and fight it when those emotions arise.
Look At The Problem From A Different Angle
Sometimes as we look at our problems, they blind us to possible solutions, but you have the power to change the paradigm. If your problem is a health one, be thankful that you can encourage people working in a hospital. When you have financial issues, be thankful you’re not homeless. If you’re homeless, be happy you’re not tied to a mortgage for the next 30 years.
Changing the paradigm can go a long way in helping you not lose hope. Sometimes it’s difficult to see things differently, and that’s why I have my friends.
Call Your Friends And Family
I have some awesome friends and family that I call whenever I find myself losing hope. I remember calling my older sister, one time when I lived in Jackson, Mississippi. There were some issues down there and I had no control over them, and I was over it. While I cried on the phone she said four words that changed my life. “Elijah, Just Come Home.”
I didn’t wanna quit, I’d been told for years that it was a bad thing. Sometimes it’s smart to throw in the towel, walk away and start over, and that’s what I did.
My sister spoke life into my heart that day, and I’ll never forget it.
Only Open Up To People That Warrant It.
As a word of caution, don’t open up to everybody. Some people want you to fail, so only open to those you trust and love. I understand there’s people in the world who can’t trust family, and others who should choose better friends. Once again, the choice is yours.
Look For Small Wins To Grow Hope
Something I’ve started doing to keep my emotions in check, is look for small wins when I’m starting to despair. For instance as I’ve started working for myself and money has been tight, I’ll look at little wins to keep me focused.
- My website hit 100 views a day for the first time.
- I Wrote 5000 Words And It Made Sense.
- Going Over The Day When It’s Over, And Believing It Went Well.
Just the practice of refocusing, and believing I did some good work that day goes far. When people start losing hope, they tend to lose all positivity, but if you have something positive you did that day. it’s like a floatation device for your heart. Remind yourself about that.
Sterlings 3 Month Rule
While I was growing up, I had a phrase that I only told myself. It came from a belief that nothing stays the same, and everything changes pretty fast. Whenever I found myself in trouble, or a situation I couldn’t handle arose, I’d tell myself;
Sterling In 3 Months, This Isn’t Going To Be Important.E Sterling
I know this might not work for all situations, but if you can adapt it, this will be a powerful tool and it focuses you on the future.
Where Does My Hope Come From?
I will lift up my eyes to the hills, from where comes my help.Psalm 121:1 the Bible
I’ve been asked this question many times, and the Bible verse above puts it into words. In all situations of life, past or present. My hope comes from God. Just last week I experienced him helping me with some financial issues.
These issues caused health problems and I lost a lot of sleep over them. I’ve lost friendships and relationships have fallen apart due to losing hope, but Jesus will never leave you. No matter how you feel, and whatever you face, but there is a catch. You have to be real with him.
If You’re In Despair, Ask Jesus For Help.
I understand you might be skeptical, that’s totally fine. I’m not asking you to believe blindly. However I will tell you that Jesus loves you, and he wants to help, all you need to do is ask. His help will come in his timing and his way. So when you ask, add that he opens your eyes for you to see it.
What Have You Got To Lose?
Whenever I’ve lost hope, and felt alone, I’ve always been able to turn and ask God for help. During those times doesn’t it feel like everything is wrong? Your heart is hungering for something different, and that is Jesus.
Many people in our society are losing hope, it’s a growing epidemic. Everything I’ve written is how I fight despair and keep moving on. Most of the time it works, however there’s been a few times that I’ve had to fight for it. Fake it until you make it is a real saying, and sometimes it’s what you gotta do.
Life isn’t easy, but it’s the only one you’ve got.
Even if you don’t believe in Jesus, and you don’t wanna ask him for help, that’s okay. The other items I put forward can still help you. Remember to clear your mind, and quiet your emotions. Reevaluate the situation and look at things from a new angle.
You might see an opportunity that you didn’t see before.