Have you ever been to a place, where you don’t know what to do? Your body is exhausted, mentally you’ve shut down, and the situation can’t be fixed. In despair, and depression you cry out for help, but nobody answers, and you believe there’s nobody that can help you. You’re losing hope, and you start to despair. Once you begin this tailspin, everything else will fall apart.
Losing Hope: This is An Act of Realization Where You Understand That You Have Failed. It’s A Place Where The Mind Believes It’s Alone, And Nothing Can Be Done To Change The Situation. The Heart Follows In Total Agreement And Because Emotions Have Gone Crazy. People Stop Thinking Straight. Usually, It Leads To A Downward Spiral Of Emotions And More Pain.
You also feel trapped, and that there’s no way out. In reality, there’s always a way out. The best thing you can do in these situations takes a deep breath and shut your brain down. You can do this for a few seconds or a few minutes. It’s hard to accomplish, but it just might save and refocus you.
Losing hope, or hopelessness is one of the worst feelings I’ve ever experienced.
Step 1: To Stop Losing Hope You’ll Need To Calm Your Emotions.
Most of the time when we have lost hope and begin to despair, our emotions have run roughshod over us. It’s hard to think straight, and even more difficult to hear God’s Voice. In these situations, when emotions are running wild. You have to somehow get them in check. This is the first step when you’re losing hope.
I’ll Exercise; Whether, whether I’m running, Biking, or playing volleyball.
Go For A Walk; This is kind of boring, but it gets your mind off things.
Write Another Book: I’ve got some new ideas in the process
Work On A Hobby: There’s a list of things I want to learn.
Play A PS4 Game: I have to stop buying video games.
Do Something To Shift My Mind And Thought Processes.
I do this to help shift my emotions. When my heart is out of whack I make crazy decisions based on feelings, and those decisions have never turned out well for me. Humans need a healthy balance between logic and emotion. One overpowering the other is never a good thing.
Whenever my emotions get out of whack. I find myself losing hope in the next few hours. I lose hope in everything and start battling depression.
Step 2: Stop Losing Hope And Look At Your Options
Once you have your emotions in check, it’s time to reassess the situation. Some circumstances might very well cause your emotions to go berserk again. Be aware of that, and fight it when those emotions arise.
Look At The Problem From A Different Angle
Sometimes as we look at our problems, they blind us to possible solutions, but you have the power to change your mental paradigm. If you’re facing a health problem, be thankful that you can encourage people working in a hospital. When you have financial issues, be thankful you’re not homeless. If you’re homeless, be happy you’re not tied to a mortgage for the next 30 years.
I know that sounds stupid, but if you’re changing the paradigm you can go a long way in helping you not lose hope. Find The Positive Side Of Every Situation.
Step 3: Call Your Friends And Family
I have some awesome friends and family that I call whenever I find myself losing hope. I remember calling my older sister, when I lived in Jackson, Mississippi. I’d been in Ministry School for a few years and there were some issues that I had no control over, and it was time for me to come home. I just hadn’t realized it yet. While I cried on the phone she said four words that changed my life. “Elijah, Just Come Home.”
I was losing hope for so long, that I couldn’t think straight.
I didn’t wanna quit, I’d been told for years that it was a bad thing. Sometimes it’s smart to throw in the towel, walk away, and start over, and that’s what I did.
My sister spoke life into my heart that day, and I’ll never forget it. Losing hope forced me in another direction.
Only Open Up To People That Warrant It.
As a word of caution, don’t open up to everybody. Some people want you to fail, so only open to those you trust and love. I understand there are people in the world who can’t trust family, and others who should choose better friends. Once again, the choice is yours.
Step 4: Look For Small Wins To Grow Hope
Something I’ve started doing to keep my emotions in check is looking for small wins when I’m starting to despair. For instance, as I’ve started working for myself and money has been tight, I’ll look at little wins to keep me focused.
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Going Over The Day When It’s Over And Believing It Went Well.
Just the practice of refocusing, and believing I did good work that day goes far. When people start losing hope, they lose all positivity. But if you have something positive that you did that day. it’s like a floatation device for your heart, keeping you going.
Remind yourself about that.
Elijah Sterlings 3-Month Rule
While I was growing up, I had a phrase that I only told myself. It came from a belief that nothing stays the same, and everything changes pretty fast. Whenever I found myself in trouble, or a situation I couldn’t handle arose, I’d tell myself;
Sterling In 3 Months, This Isn’t Going To Be Important.
I know this might not work for all situations, but if you can adapt it, this will be a powerful tool and it focuses you on the future.
Where Does My Hope Come From?
I will lift up my eyes to the hills, from where comes my help.
I’ve been asked this question many times, and the Bible verse above puts it into words. In all situations of life, past or present. My hope comes from God. Just last week I experienced him helping me with some financial issues. If you’re in a tough situation, I want to tell you that God hears your prayers.
Whenever I’m losing help, my health suffers, and I lose a lot of sleep. Friendships and relationships have fallen apart due to me losing hope, but Jesus will never leave you in fact, he’s the way to freedom. No matter how you feel, and whatever you face, there is a catch. You have to be real with him.
If You’re In Despair, Ask Jesus For Help.
I understand you might be skeptical, and that’s totally fine. I’m not asking you to believe blindly. However I will tell you that Jesus loves you, and he wants to help. All you need to do is ask. Help will come in his timing and his way. So when you ask, add that he opens your eyes for you to see it.
What Have You Got To Lose?
Whenever I’m losing hope and feel alone, I’ve always been able to turn and ask God for help. During those times doesn’t it feel like everything is wrong? Your heart is hungering for something different, and that is Jesus. In fact, I’d even say that Jesus is the answer to your question.
Many people in our society are losing hope, it’s a growing epidemic. Everything I’ve written is how I fight despair and keep moving on. Most of the time it works, however, there’s been a few times that I’ve had to fight for it.
Life isn’t easy, but it’s the only one you’ve got.
If you don’t believe in Jesus, that’s okay. You can still ask him for help. The other items I put forward can still help you. Remember to clear your mind, and quiet your emotions. Reevaluate the situation and look at things from a new angle.
You might see an opportunity that you didn’t see before.
Sterling grew up in the suburbs of Minneapolis. As a kid he loved skateboarding but mostly did street riding. He injured his ankle badly when he dropped into his first half pipe. His skateboarding slowed down after that, but he still loved the sport. While in his 20's he needed to make a change, so he did some world traveling with a motivational speaking group. Through it all, he visited 46 states and 3 continents and eventually lived in Mississippi. In 2005, Hurricane Katrina tore through the state. He jumped into the fray, helping mobilize support for the evacuees of New Orleans & The Gulf Coast. During the aftermath he helped run a shelter and drove food & medical supplies to affected areas by truck. Currently he lives in Minneapolis, runs his snowboard shop, and shreds Vail Whenever he can.