The last few years have been really rough. My father had cancer and passed away. My businesses have been struggling, and I was hoping to find love. Everything I’ve been focused on has failed, and I’ve been losing hope.
When you go all in with something failure will rip your heart out, and it will demolish you. It marks you for the next event, and it reminds you of your failure.
You have a choice when you’re losing hope. You can fight, or you can run. Running will not stop the loss, in fact it only increases it. When you run you’re making things worse on yourself, and only delaying the fight.
The worst part about running, is that it tires you out, and when that fight inevitably happens you’re more exhausted than you should be.
It’s why so many people continue to lose hope, and they become shells of their former self.
What Does It Mean When You Lose Hope?
To lose hope, is to lose your future. It’s a belief that goes into your soul that you buy into. And that belief is that things will never get better, in fact you’ll be lucky if they stay the same. For me a deep sense of foreboding comes onto me, and I usually wanna curl up and die.
Losing hope is a horrible feeling, and when you combine that with depression or anxiety. You’ve got a giant to defeat.
When you lose hope, there’s almost nothing you can do. I say almost, because the few things you can do, will make all the difference. One of the reasons I am in this place, is that I left my close friend group, and joined some others. However I didn’t let myself get close to the new group, and kept them at arms length.
When you don’t have a good sense of community, you’re going to lose hope.
How Do You Never Lose Hope?
You can hold on forever, when you’ve got good friends. Your friends are key to winning the battle of hope. When you’re weary, they’ll lift you up. And if you’ve lost your way, they’ll help you find it.
One of the best things you can to is have good friends around you.
Finding Faith In Jesus; Keeps Me From Losing Hope
One of the things that has been a huge benefit, is a relationship with Jesus. Him and I have been through a lot, and there’s no other person in this world that I’d rather fight alongside. Because he’s always helped me fight.
Losing Hope And Learning To Fight
Along with Jesus and friends. I had to learn to make some choices. One of which came from the old saying, “Fake it till you make it.” I don’t like the idea of faking anything, however sometimes you have to force yourself to do something.
When I was losing hope about things with my father, I didn’t wanna go to work, talk with friends, or even go snowboarding. (which is a huge stretch for me)
I lost all hope and it didn’t look like I’d find it anytime soon. However a month ago I did notice a light, and over the last few weeks it’s begun to grow. I’ve made consistent choices to focus on the little things. If I can make choices in areas that I have power, and stop worrying about the things I can’t, then maybe there’s a difference I can make somewhere.
If you’re losing hope, you’re not alone. I want you to know this, God loves you, I love you, and there’s a world of people out there who love you. There’s a reason you were put here on this earth, and only you can accomplish that reason. You’re worth it.
I don’t know if any of this post makes sense, but it was on my heart and now it’s out on the internet. Comment below if you enjoyed it.