In our culture fear gets a bad rap. It has a negative connotation that people can’t seem to get over. They see people in movies and books who are courageous, and they know that’s not them. but what If I were to tell you that’s all a lie, a facade? What if I told you that Fear is good, as long as you use it to your advantage.
Fear will Paralyze
The choice is in your hands, and you make that choice every day. In fact, your whole life has been one training day after another. How you currently handle fear, is how you’ve trained it to be.
Can Fear Can Be A Good Thing?
Do you run? Do you fight? Both choices are useful depending on the situation, but there is also a 3rd option, and it’s called inaction. When you choose that option, you’re abdicating control over your life and letting the chips land as they fall.
My opinion is that Inaction is the worst form of cowardice. When you make a choice and fail, at least you tried.
Fear Vs. Courage
People think Fear and courage are opposites, and this leads us to the false equivalence. If you’re scared then you lack courage, and I don’t believe that to be the case.
I don’t see courage as the absence of fear, but choosing to act while afraid. It’s knowing you’re scared, but you’ll still do what’s right. When you allow fear to paralyze you. You losing control of the situation, and you turn it over to other factors. In essence, you give up control of part of your life. However, when you act, you’re taking mastery over it, and choosing to do what needs to be done.
Why Fear Is Important?
Fear tells you that something dangerous is near, it brings you into a place where your natural instincts will take over, and it gives you focus. Like I wrote above, fear is bad when it paralyzes you, however when you make a choice you’re also making a decision to face the fear.
There’s a lot of hysteria in the world today, with Covid-19, issues in China, and everything in the Middle East…
to name a few.
but how many of these issues do you actually have control over? I’d say none of them, so why are you spending so much time and energy worrying about these things?
It’s a realization I came to a long time ago, I’m a man that can worry about the things I have control over. Where’d I leave the remote? Did I start that fire? Is this girl the one for me?
These are fears I can face and control. when I stop worrying and start acting in the areas of my life major things can change for the better. From relationships, job opportunity’s too simple things like leisure pursuits.
All of these can be attained when you stop being paralyzed and learn to take a few risks.
How Do I Win Over My Fears?
This takes a lot of training, help from friends, and in my case, a lot of prayers. Currently, there is a lot of fear in this world, and like I wrote above it doesn’t look like things are going to get better for a while.
However there’s a few simple things you can do that’ll help you in fighting your fears and anxiety.
Know Who You Are:
Does my title make sense? Perhaps not, but when you know who you are, you’ll have roots. This foundation will make it extremely hard for anything to shake you. Remember when you have a tall building, you’ll need a deep foundation. It’s the same with people, if you don’t know who you are, how are you going to stand against things you don’t believe?
Let me give you a start with this, You were created for a beautiful purpose. There are things on this planet only you can do, and that’s why you’re here. Jesus loves you and is always there for you, all you need to do is ask for help.
This is of the spiritual truths, that helped me find myself. My relationship with Jesus is by no means perfect. In fact, I make mistakes daily. However, if you’re struggling with fear, pain, or heartache. You can reach out to him, and he’ll answer you. You might not get the answer you want, but you’ll get the answer you need.
Have A Solid Group Of Friends:
A lot of times when fear enters your heart, the first thing it does is paralyze you. It’ll make it so you’re too scared to move, and you’ll feel alone. This is where your friends come in. When you have an awesome group of people around you, make the best of things and let them in. When you know the real you, let others know that person too.
You’ll discover a lot of awesome things about people and find more resources than you’d ever imagine.
One of my favorite bible verses on this subject is Ecclesiastes 4:10. In the verse, it states that 2 are better than one because if one falls the other can pick them up.
When you try to live life alone, all you have is you to rely on, and that gets lonely really quick.
Name Your Fear, Is It Good Or Bad?
This might just be a Sterling thing, but I’ve discovered that emotions/feelings can rise up so fast that you’re acting by total instinct instead of logic.
Emotion and logic are both needed for proper decisions, having too much of one or the other can give you some horrible life choices.
When I dig into my feelings of fear and anxiety, and I see the fear I name it out loud. This helps me focus on the problem at hand, and see it for the size it really is.
For example, I had an expensive car repair recently and didn’t know what to do about it. I was worried my job depends on the car and it was greater than I could afford. Eventually, I got so worried that I couldn’t think about anything but the issue.
Finally, I sat down and looked at everything objectively, listed out my options, and reminded myself that this is only a short-term hurdle. Life changes fast, make sure you don’t spend it worrying.
Spend it doing something.
Why Fear Holds Us Back?
I’ve gone over it a little bit already, but fear holds us back because it blinds us to the choices we need to make and the options we have on the table. I’ve said before that fear paralysis isn’t a good thing.
You need to make a choice, and whatever happens is the consequences of that choice.
I know that sounds scary in its own right, but making a bad choice is still a better feeling than wonder what the outcome of my choice would’ve been.
I hate that feeling.
What Are The Positive Effects Of Fear
Believe it or not there are some positive effects of fear out there.
- It’s a motivator, when a lion jumps out, you’re motivated to run. LOL
- Fear Will Bring You To Focus/I’m at my best when I use fear to my advantage.
I know there’s more positive effects, but those are my two favorite ones, and I personally thing they’re the best ones.
What are you going to do in life? Are you going to let yourself sit still and do nothing, only to wonder why on your death bed? Or are you going to try, and someday be content with the memory of a choice?
I hope you liked my latest writing about fear. It’s something we have a lot of current in the world, you can win this fight. Use the fear to propel you, and Never let it win.