How You Can Overcome Fear And Anxiety; Stop Living In Terror

Fear and anxiety will creep in fast and unexpected. It strikes at me during the quiet time of the night. I wake up startled, gasping for air in a cold sweat. And in my memory, a terrifying dream fades away slowly. However, a feeling of terror remains.

My heart is beating fast, and I can’t go back to sleep. So instead of sleeping I’ll get out of bed and wander my dark apartment. My anxiety has struck again robbing me of precious sleep.

This scenario happens to me regularly. So much in fact I find myself writing at 3 AM at least once a week. I can’t say my fear and anxiety have been conquered, but I can say they’ve changed dramatically.

In High School, my friends thought I had a death wish. In reality, I didn’t care about life. Now that I’ve made it to my 30’s (by the grace of God). I have a tighter grasp on life, and I have dreams and goals I need to accomplish before I go.

Now I’m facing different fears, someday they haunt every step, and others they don’t even come up.

  • Will I be single the rest of my life?
  • When will my businesses finally take off?
  • Am I tired or do I have cancer? (sometimes I’m a hypochondriac)

My anxiety is pretty straight forward, and I’m sure most of us have similar ones.

Why Do We Have Fear And Anxiety?

I’m not a doctor, psychologist, or anything related to that field. I’m a snowboard instructor who was abused as a child. Due to that experience, I never knew stability, and I’ve been trying to find it my entire life.

Fear fights logic and overpowers it regularly. For example, how many times have you seen people terrified on an airplane? They are scared to death even when the plane is still on the ground.

We Are Fearful And Anxious About Things We Can’t Control

My above answer about the airplane goes right into this issue when you’re on that plane. You have no control, all you can do is sit back, relax, and hope you don’t die. (comforting isn’t it)

The chances of you dying in the car on the way to the airport are actually 3 times greater. In other words, you could die driving to the airport while you are scared to get on the plane.

When there is no control, fear will creep in.

We’re Scared Of The Unknown.

It’s always a dark location, usually at night and it makes a terrible noise. We don’t know what the noise is, and we can’t see a thing. However, it’s unknown and therefore could be a threat. This is what scares us.

I like to think about the house down the street in our collective memories. It’s a scary house full of cobwebs and urban legends. During the day it isn’t scary but at night. You’d never walk by it.

The woods and the open sea fall into this category. Things that are uncertain, and can’t be controlled (hey there it is again) are unknown. Therefore they are scary.

The 10 Most Common Fears And Anxieties?

The fears below are taken from a list I saw on an ABC news site. I feel that it’s pretty spot-on for fears as I’ve met people with most of these.

Fear And Anxiety List:

Social Phobias:

This is a common type of fear. Classified as a social anxiety disorder it stops many people from socializing. This disorder most likely will get worse in the future. This is due to increases in people working from home, and getting everything they need to be delivered.

Agoraphobia: This is a fear of open spaces.

Although it’s much more complicated than that. To me, it seems the opposite of claustrophobia. It probably has some relation to social phobias but whether it’s the cause or effect would depend on the person.

Acrophobia: The Fear Of Heights.

I’ve had this a few times in my life, and one time I caused fear. I watched a TV Show called airline Disasters and then boarded a plane. I almost freaked out on the plane.

Some people get scared being on a chair or going up an escalator.

Pteromerhanophobia: The Fear Of Flying.

Some people can hike tall mountains and ski down them, but when it comes to flying, they’ll opt to take a road trip. I’ve even heard of a few sports players with this issue.

Claustrophobia: Fear Of Enclosed Spaces

Do you hate closets? Does a room have to have an open door? You might have claustrophobia. I feel like we all have some level of this fear.

Fear And Anxiety: Animals

Entomophobia: Fear Of Insects

There are some people who fear spiders, other caterpillars, and millipedes. For me, I hate them all, and spiders are the worst.

There was a time that I stepped on a spider. I thought I was killing it, but a thousand little ones came out of it. Never again.

Ophidiophobia: Fear Of Snakes

Okay, let the record show I am not cool with snakes. They are slimy weird and have fangs. If one comes near me, I’m tying that thing to a pole. The worst are python, anacondas, and boa constrictors. I don’t wanna die like that…However I don’t think I have a fear of snakes, I think it’d be worse.

Cynophobia: Fear Of Dogs

I thought I had this fear growing up. I was a paperboy and was bit by a dog in the 3rd grade. Looking back I see the dog was being playful and it didn’t break my skin. I had no experience with them and it terrified me.

I was also caring a heavy bag of newspapers and couldn’t defend myself.

Astraphobia: Fear Of Storms

I think my father and grandmother had this fear. Both of them would panic whenever a large storm came. My father probably inherited this fear from his mom and she grew up during the depression when storms would do major damage. It’s understandable.

Trypanophobia: Fear Of Needles.

Going to the doctor and you have this fear. I like to tell the doctor and nurse that I don’t wanna see it. If I don’t see it, then I’m not afraid of it. Then it comes out of nowhere and I feel a stabbing pain LOL.

Why I’m Writing About Fear And Anxiety?

Our Fears and anxieties attack every single day, and when the attack comes we have two choices.

  • Should I Fight?
  • Or Should I Run?

Both choices have some merit, and depending on the situation one might be a better choice than the other. In my book Hurricane Jerald I go into some of my fears, writing about how I overcome them.

Should You Fight?

If this is a fear that keeps coming back and your running doesn’t help. Put your fists up, it’s time to knock it out. I lean more towards this choice because I don’t like my fear. I want to destroy it from ever taking hold of my life.

However, I’m not the best at fighting yet. You’ll never win the fight by winning one battle. This fight will be an ongoing campaign, but eventually, things will get easier.

Should You Run?

It’s a belief of mine that everyone should know how to defend themselves. Whether they take a self-defense course, or they have a weapon they’re trained to use properly. It’s important.

If you are scared, and in a situation where you can’t defend yourself or you’re in physical danger. RUN away. This is a major time you should run. There are other times as well to be sure, but this is the time to act.

How To Face Fear And Anxiety?

I wrote a blog post about this recently about ‘Overcoming Fear And Anxiety.’ In it, I used an example from my job as a snowboard instructor. A few years ago I had a severe concussion. This gave me intense anxiety, I even considered giving up snowboarding.

When you’re driving on an icy road, eventually you’ll hit some black ice and the car will go into a skid. This is where you turn into the skid. If the car is spinning right turn the wheels left.

Doing this simple move will help you regain control, and the same can be done in your life. When you’re full of fear, anxiety, and pain. Turn into the skid.

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