Why You Have To Fail To Succeed; Learn From Your Mistakes

Have you ever thrown your heart and soul into a project, only to have it fail, disintegrating right before your eyes? The last two years I’ve been an entrepreneur, trying to find my place in the world. Some of my projects have born fruit, and many more have blown up, caught on fire, and I’ve casted them into oblivion. When you want to succeed, you’ll have to fail to succeed.

It’s been disheartening to say the least.

I can’t tell you how many sleepless nights I’ve had, how can one measure the stress and frustration too? Either way, I’m playing the long game, and failure will teach me to succeed.

I hate studying successful people. It’s like there standing there in front of you shining like a beacon in the night. How did they get there? It doesn’t matter, you can do it, and it’s easy. Just try harder.

Then everyone goes to their own personal projects, trying to mimc them. Most of us give up in frustration, and we fail. Never seeing the fruit of our labor.

Success isn’t just about skill, or luck. It’s about Perseverance.

Even if the successful person tells us about their pitfalls. We tend to forget those, and we focus on the glitz and glamor they shine with. We neglect to realize the lessons they’re trying to teach were learned in the dark.

I’m not a guru by any means, at my best I’m an idiot stumbling around a dark room hoping I don’t stub my toe. (fricken hurts) Regardless, I have learned a few things. Whenever I’m working on something. I try to stay positive, stay focused on the prize, and understand there will be hiccups.

My List Of Failures

Feel free to have a laugh as you read through these. Each one of these fails holds a special place in my heart. They are from the last few years in chronological order. Also, just because they are failing now, doesn’t mean they won’t succeed in the future. Some of my ideas are being tweaked as I write, and we’ll see who gets the last laugh.

My journey began two years ago, I was sitting in my office, and I couldn’t take it anymore. I just felt a strong desire to leave, and do something greater. This feeling green until I almost ran. This is where, an amazing opportunity dropped into my lap, and I jumped at the chance.

Fail To Succeed #1; Helping A NonProfit

I had some messed up beliefs. One of the major ones involved nonprofits. They help the world by transforming people and making their lives better, Right? So, I thought if I work for one that would make me a better person. That would be something I could do, and hopefully it would fill my empty soul?

It didn’t, I think it only helped reveal how little I knew about the path I was on, and how childish and immature I was. There was something inside that needed to grow up, and I wouldn’t be able to succeed there. I knew deep down and hated it. After 3 months, I quit.

When I started there, in my heart I’d gotten my dream job, but it was my nightmare.

Fail To Succeed #2; Mobile Closing

Still reeling from my 1st failure, I decided to go into real estate, I had to make money somehow. My sister works in title loans, and she thought I’d be perfect doing it. While I enjoyed it, and had a good time. I moved on quickly as it posed no excitement.

Fail To Succeed #3 Amazon Author

The first couple times I experienced failure, there was money in my bank account. Which was good to fall back on. A year after leaving my corporate job. That money was drying up fast, and I was getting scared. I had to put everything into high gear and try multiple ideas at once. Most of these ideas were like throwing stuff against the wall. I kept hoping something would stick.

This is when I finished my first book. It’d been in process for the better part of a decade, but I was scared to finish it. Finally my fear became too great, and I put it on Amazon. Initially it did really well, I was shocked because I thought it would sell a lot, but it did better than most 1st time others.

After awhile, I realized that I was selling copies in England which was awesome. It didn’t catch on in America, at least not yet. The money I earned was barely enough to survive, but I kept dreaming. Today you can still purchase my book. It’s called Hurricane Jerald and it’s about my life growing up, and how I learned to forgive my abusive father.

Fail To Succeed #4 Amazon Seller

I started selling junk on Amazon. I was already in the amazon universe with my book, so I thought why not? My first step was to raid my storage unit, my closets and put everything on amazon worth any money. The goal was to get an online shop going, and I was determined to make it work.

However, after a few months, I had stacks of inventory lying around my apartment. I couldn’t sell any products and to this day, I have expensive paperweights on my desk.

They’re mocking me… even now…

Fail To Succeed #5 Shopify Fail

After seeing the difficulties and hurdles of selling on Amazon. I jumped ship again. This time, I’d start my own website and make a drop shipping store.

I started writing content, and found products in China. My first website was a snowboarding website called: SnoFall Gear. My goal was to transform the snowboard community and the world. I hoped everybody would come my site and get Tips, Tricks, & Gear.

If you haven’t figured it out, I dream big. You should probably upgrade your dreams too.

My site sold 5 pairs of goggles.

Turns out selling junk products from China on a brand new website that looks like every other snowboard website looks fishy to people. I didn’t know how I’d differentiations my site from every one else, and that was annoying.

I had one skill I wasn’t using. I’ve always been a good writer, and never have I been a good salesmen. So I realized, that I needed a website to write blog posts, and write about my knowledge on different subjects.

Fail To Succeed #5 WordPress Sites;

Calling my WordPress sites a failure is a bit premature, in fact I’m going on 1 1/2 years for this one. However I have made tons of mistakes, and I continue to learn from them. Currently, I have two websites:

In the last 6 months, I had many highs and more lows. Sometimes I don’t even wanna continue. Heck, I’ve had all day to write this post, and I’m finishing it around 11pm with a glass of whiskey in hand.

In all my fails, I’ve learned one important thing;

Failure isn’t bad, unless you stop learning from it.

Whatever you’re doing, give it your all. Then if you fail you’ll know you tried your best. This will do a couple of things for you.

  1. It’ll show you where there is weakness.
  2. Failure will reveal your focus. (don’t fail for lack of trying ever)
  3. It’ll give you a lot of data to analyze and learn from.

Never stop learning from failure. Even if you’re saying for the hundredth time, “I shouldn’t of done that.” You’re still learning (although you need to apply whatever you shouldn’t have done.)

Is It Good Too Fail?

My personal belief says; YES!!! If I hadn’t failed so many times. I’d never have started my websites, and I wouldn’t have finished my book. My failures are the signposts to my success. I can look behind me and see them, but if I look forward I only see the goal. Whatever you do, make sure it’s full of passion, so you can run hard after it.

Failure Is Success In Progress

I love the quote above, although I’m not sure where I got it from. When you fail, you’re taking steps towards success.

Does it suck? YES!!!! It’s awful, but it’s a pain that passes.

However the work of months, years, or decades. Can transform your life when you finally see the finished product.

Perseverance here is important. I think about quitting often, even a few times today. A nice cushy job in an office sounds great when you’re doing what you can to survive.

What is your dream worth? Can you take 2 years of swinging a sledge hammer if you can have it at the end?

When do I start?

Passion, Is What Drives You.

if you want to succeed and stop failing in life, you need to be passionate about your dreams, and you need to realize they have to be a part of you. Snofallgear is a part of me, because I love snowboarding. I dream about shredding mountains in July.

ESterling LLC is another passion of mine. There are so many people hurting in this world, and I want to help them. If my story can help 1 person, It’s accomplished what it needs to, and I’ve succeeded.

So it’s already happened.

What Does It Mean To Be A Failure?

I’ve begun to use my failures as step stones. Each time I fail, there is always something to learn, and always something to do better.

When I fall, I get back up, falling is not a failure, but staying down is. Every time I face a new challenge, I’m gonna fail. In some way shape or form. however, I will learn from it, and I will eventually succeed.

Failure is Not An Option

Whatever you’re doing, if you believe it can be done go for it. Don’t live a life of regret. Make a plan, and change the world. Only you can accomplish what you’re here for.

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