In my life I’ve been a failure, at least that’s what I tell myself whenever I look into my list of Dreams & Goals. It seems like the list gets longer and I keep growing older. However, my dreams keep getting larger, and more epic, and I don’t ever seem to make headway.
In the last 10 years, I’ve consolidated my list of goals and in the last two years, I’ve developed a plan to achieve them. If I’m going to keep chasing them, for however long I’m on this planet.
I’m gonna need a plan.
Dream Big When Chasing Them
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”― Norman Vincent Peale
I love the above quote from Norman Vincent Peale. What is stopping you from trying to chasing dreams? Why should you settle for something less when you can dream up anything.
Chasing dreams will bring out the best in you. But It will also stress you out. You’ll begin to question your life choices. And slowly but surely you’ll notice that your mind is transforming and you’re learning more about yourself.
I have some current dreams and goals that I’ve set for my life. To be honest they scare the living crap out of me. I have no idea how I’ll achieve them, but I’ve got a plan, and that’s what matters. You’ll never achieve a huge Goal in a day. It’ll take a lot of perseverance, blood, sweat, and tears. Keep Chasing Dreams, and Achieving Your Goals.
Remember to dream big, and set big goals. If you keep setting small ones. You limit yourself to a smaller world.
Chasing Dreams By Setting Goals
Below is a list of steps or questions that I go through when setting goals. It’s good to define what you’re doing. Also, write your thoughts down. That way your thoughts won’t drift from what you wrote.
- Make a Decision. What Do You Want?
- Speak To The People Around You. They Might Be Able To Give You A Different Perspective.
- Write It Down, Somewhere Prominent In Your Life. (I Have A Dry Erase Board On My Fridge, And I Set Reminders To Pop Up On My Phone ETC.)
- You’ll Have To Face Your Fears.
- Plan Out Steps To Achieve The Goal. Write Down The Different Steps You’ll Need To Take, And Use Them As Milestones.
- Shake Up The Paradigm And Make Changes. Maybe There’s Something You Haven’t Considered.
- Achieve Your Goal Or Reevaluate It.
Chasing Dreams Will Start With A Decision.
This is sometimes the hardest part many people face. Just making a decision from a good idea to a bad one is one thing. But when you have two equally good ideas but only enough time or energy for one. Making that decision is tough.
Whenever I’m in this debacle, I look at which one is larger. I try to see which one will encompass more of what I want to do in my life, and I chase after that one.
It all seems so simple when I’m writing it, but when you’re in the weeds it’s a hard choice. Sometimes, it helps to move onto #2.
Chasing Dreams; Use Peer Pressure To Propel You Forward.
I have a lot of friends, but most of them aren’t people who I ask for advice. For that, I have a small tight-knit group. Not everybody will respond favorably to a dream or goal you’re trying to set.
However, the people you want to speak with, are the ones who will tell you the truth. They are the ones who practice tough love and will say your idea is crazy. But they also should tell you why.
In addition to that, you’ll want to avoid the people who agree with everything you do. There’s no point in asking these people for advice. They only know how to say great idea, and what’s stopping you? They’re idiots and people pleasers.
Others are evil, they act like friends but will stab you in the back and cut you off at the knees. These are the people you NEVER want advice from.
Usually, if they must be around, I’ll put them at arm’s length and avoid them altogether.
Once you have the right people, either get them together or meet with them individually. Usually, I’ll follow something similar to the following steps.
- I tell them what type of goal I’m setting, or the goals I’m deciding between.
- I ask if they see any pitfalls in my thinking and if these ideas could really work?
- If everything checks out, and they’re on board, I’ll start a basic outline to achieve my goal then and there. Although, if they see a huge flaw in my goal. I’ll take a step back to see if there’s another way.
Write Your Goals Down.
I have a dry erase board on my fridge. I put it there because I open the door every day, and I want to be reminded as much as possible.
It keeps me focused, and I stay on target.
When you write your goals down, it makes them real and holds you accountable for the future. It’s something you can go back to and see where your head was, and you don’t have to worry about your dream turning into something completely different.
Plan Out Steps To Achieve The Goal
My book ‘Hurricane Jerald.’ was something I’d been working on for over a decade. Two years ago, I grew weary of doing it halfway and decided it was time to finish it. However I am lazy, and so I made an impossible goal.
I would finish my book in 6 months.
This was a difficult goal, At the time it was the end of August, and I wanted it out just before Christmas (I was motivated by $$$). The book itself was half done, I didn’t have a title, and I’d never self-published before. In other words, 6 months was going to be a tough target to hit.
I knew if I was to succeed at all. That I needed a list of steps that must happen. Early on it included the basics, and then go more technical as I learned more (Like creating book covers) Below was one of my lists.
Hurricane Jerald Completion List
- Figure out how long a novel should be?
- Do the math, and figure out how much you should write for the next 5 months.
- Use the last month for proofreading, figure out publishing, and getting test readers. (hopefully, they don’t hate it.)
- Also, get a cover made.
For anybody who’s ever published a book, you’ll see that I didn’t know what I was doing. It entails a lot more than I knew, because of that my book release date was pushed back 3 different times. It was finally released sometime in late March. This of course was 3 months later than planned, and that kinda bugged me. However as time went on, I realized it worked out better this way, because I’d learned a lot about the book writing process.
Remember to be flexible with timetables, and if you think something should take six months give yourself some extra time. Something I learned in project management is always scheduled for 75% of the work you’re capable of. That way if things go wrong (and they will). You’ll have the extra time to deal with it.
If you’re scheduled for 100% of what you can do. When something fails, (and it will) you’re not going to have the bandwidth to fix it.
Stay focused have perseverance and keep going.
You’ll Need To Face Your Fears
When you’re trying to achieve a huge goal. There will be a certain amount of fear. It’ll probably be with you the entire time. However fear isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as long as you use it to propel you.
- Don’t Let Fear Paralyze You.
- Stop The Fear From Lying To You.
- Never Believe You’re A Failure, Or That You Will Fail.
Failure is you learning to succeed, and sometimes you need to fail. It’s hard to fail, and I’m scared to death of it, but I’m tired of wondering what could’ve been.
I’ve written a whole blog post about fear and how it holds you back. I go into depth about it. So please check it out.
Shake Up The Paradigm
So you’re trying to achieve your goals. You’ve made the plan, speaking with friends, and you keep failing.
What do you do?
It all seemed to work out on paper, but where did everything go wrong? I recommend taking a step back and trying to see the entire goal. Ask yourself the following questions:
- What am I trying to accomplish?
- Is there something holding me back?
- Are there any other paths to the goal opened to me?
- What could be done better and fixed with these issues?
- How can I speed up this process?
I recommend answering these questions and then going back to your friends/family that you spoke to in the second step. It’s always good to get a second set of eyes on an issue.
Also, you might need a new set of eyes on the problem. Find somebody who’s not been a part of the process. Maybe they’ll have something new to say.
Achieve Your Dream Or Reevaluate It.
Hopefully, if you’ve reached this point, you’ll be able to celebrate. However, sometimes goals and dreams don’t happen.
I’m not saying this to dash your hopes, but if you did everything you can, you’ve been trying for a long time and you’re not making headway. You might need to let go and hope for the best.
Hopefully, that’s not the case. I pray that you achieved your dreams and now you’re excited and ready for more.
So my advice for you is;
Dream Something Up That’s Even Bigger.