In the last few months, I’ve experienced some massive problems. My job has been increasingly stressful, my mother is in the hospital, and my finances aren’t where I want them to be. This has caused major feelings of depression and heartache. I felt like giving up was my only option.
However, I have a problem because I’ve always equated giving up with failure, and I’m not sure how I feel about that. So I’ve been trying to differentiate between Giving Up, and Letting Go?
Giving Up And Letting Go Are Not The Same Action. The Former Is Offering Full Surrender To The Situation, While The Later Offers Freedom From The Situation.
Sometimes in life, you have to admit defeat and let go, like the proverbial 40-year-old man trying to be an NFL quarterback. It’s time to let go and learn about giving up.
There is a Difference Between Giving Up And Letting Go.
When giving up, it usually means you’re fearful or doubting yourself. When giving up you surrender to those emotions. It causes pain and heartbreak to do this.
In short, I view it as cowardice, and you surrendered your dream. That’s what makes it so difficult for me.
Letting go means freedom. You’re not trapped by your emotions, instead, you’re focused on the future, believing things can be better.
Usually, when you’re letting go, you’ve realized that the dream isn’t where you’re supposed to be going. You’ve learned a lot on the way, but you can spend your energy better elsewhere.
A good rule of thumb to check and see what you’re experiencing involves how you feel. When you’re tired frustrated and can’t focus it means you’re trapped by negative emotions. At that point, you need to let things go.
A Word For Giving Up?
If I would sum Giving up in one word, it’s Surrender. People tend to surrender when they can no longer fight, see a way out, or if they’re tired of fighting.
When you surrender, you place yourself in a position of servitude. This service might be to a person, but nowadays it’s a mindset.
- You Failed At Your Business. So Now You Think Of Yourself As A Failure.
- Maybe The Girl (Or Guy) You Loved Didn’t Love You Back? So Now You’ll Always Be Unloved.
- You’re Trying To Have Kids, But You Can’t Make It Work. Now You Feel Useless As A Person.
In all of these situations, you’re surrendering to the situation and having a dangerous mindset. Just because you failed once doesn’t mean you’ll fail again.
Why Is Giving Up So Much Easier?
I think people stop trying because they grow tired of fighting. In my own life, I’m currently fighting this issue. At the time of this writing, it’s 2020 and I’m living in Minneapolis.
- A Presidential Impeachment
- Fires In Australia
- Beer Bug Shutdowns
That’s what I remember, and it’s only August. I’m tired, I want to give up. Just this last week I thought about quitting my job by walking out. And for the last month, I have written on this blog, or my snowboard blog called SnoFallgear.
Ultimately, we all have to make a decision. Should we be controlled by our emotions? Or should we use them to propel us forward? In my book Hurricane Jerald, I write a lot about fear and overcoming it.
- Fear Freezes You In Place
- Or it Causes You To Run (It’s Really Weird)
- It Overwhelms Emotions
- Fear Stops You From Thinking Clearly.
- It Causes You To Give Up, And Surrender.
This is why fear needs to be dealt with. You can’t let the fear overwhelm your life, and you have to deal with it immediately. Check out my post about dealing with fear here for more information.
What does Letting Go mean?
Dealing with your fear is the first part of letting go. When you decide to let go, fear will fill your heart, and it’ll make things difficult.
However, if you press through the emotions, and fight the fear, you’ll realize that life is better when fear propels you. Don’t let it paralyze you.
That’s The First Step To Letting go.
In my early 20s, I was dating a girl and believed her to be the one. She was everything I wanted in my life, and she gave me every indication that I was the same as her. It was a fairy tale relationship.
However, when things aren’t right, they fall apart, and that’s what happened to us.
For her, there was no giving up, for her I needed to let go.
For the next few months, I had to dig into some serious emotions, and I talked with a lot of friends.
Talking With Friends Is The Second Step
While this doesn’t seem to be that important, it really is. It’s harder to let go when you don’t have someone else anchoring you. It doesn’t matter what you do or where you go.
You need other people around you during this fight.
For example, I’m pretty sure that I had PTSD (undiagnosed) after coming home from Hurricane Katrina in Mississippi. I had lived down there for 4 1/2 years and during the last year, Katrina came through.
During this time I found myself running a Shelter and Supply Depot. I had two full-time jobs keeping The Mississippi Gulf Coast And New Orleans supplied.
When I came home there were things I didn’t talk about for an entire year. they were eating me up inside. I had to let go of the pain I was holding onto.
So one night, a good friend of mine handed me a cup of coffee and said to start talking. I told him about the horrible and amazing things I’d experienced.
(New book topic for the future).
After that night, I don’t feel the tension anymore. It’s what letting things out can do for you.
Letting Go Doesn’t Mean Giving Up.
Giving up and letting go are similar, but the drive is a huge difference between the two of them.
When you’re letting go, you’re releasing emotions and feelings of attachment. These can be towards people, jobs, or material objects.
However, letting go doesn’t mean you’re surrendering hope. Sometimes you’ll let go of someone, and deep in your heart, there’s a feeling that things aren’t over yet.
Sometimes that feeling is crazy, so watch out. However, it’s not something to hold onto, if it’s meant to be, it’ll be. If not, you’re fine and you’ll move on.
It’s a choice to make, once that’s done, everything else will fall into place. It just takes time.
How Do You Let Go Of Someone?
The age-old question of a teenager. heartbreak in this life is inevitable. I remember my first heartbreak like it was yesterday. It was like a continual punch to the gut.
The reason letting go of someone is so hard stems from how you viewed them, and how they viewed you.
In your heart, you showed them who you are, and they turned and walked away from that.
How can you go on? When the person you loved saw you, and walked away?
Here’s How You Do It:
- Don’t Give Up On Love, That’s Easy To Do, But Someone Is Out There For You.
- Wake Up Every Morning.
- Eat Breakfast.
- Get Ready To Face The World.
That’s what I do, I force myself to believe in myself, and God. I’m so tired of giving up. In everything I face, there’s something deeper, more intense out there.
Nothing is pointless, and everything is a learning experience.
Why Letting Go Is So Hard?
Letting go is hard because it’s a shot to your pride and your heart. People don’t like to admit they were wrong, even more so, they don’t like to admit that to other people.
That’s what makes it hard, and the more your heart is entwined. The harder it is to let go.
Why Letting Go Is So Important
Letting go is important because you’re opening yourself up to new opportunities and situations.
When you give up, you’re surrendering and putting yourself in a position that doesn’t have the freedom of letting go.
Are You Thinking Of Giving Up?
I don’t know where you’re at in life, and that doesn’t matter. if you haven’t felt it yet, you will soon.
The heavy emotions of fear, and depression, will try to force you to surrender. Don’t give in to them.
- Analyze The Situation.
- Look For Your Exit Strategy.
- Know When To Use That Strategy.
You’ve got this, whatever you’re facing I believe we all have the ability to fight and do better.
Don’t give up, but feel free to let go.
“Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
19 See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland.