When you admit you were wrong a liberation happens in your soul, it frees you to be yourself. There are a few hurdles to overcome prior to your admission of guilt and most of these are mental however, if you can weather the storm. You’ll come out on the other end with personal pride, and honor.
A couple of the mental hurdles you’ll have to overcome involve but aren’t limited to:
- Feeling like an idiot.
- Worrying what people will think.
- Thinking you’ll lose power or prestige.
- Feelings of inadequacy.
- You’re full of pride, and can’t admit you were wrong
Many of my reasons above are related and come from the mental games we tend to play. I also feel that higher authority levels grow these feelings. While this differs for different people it’s also a matter of how you view yourself.
How Do You Admit You Did Something Wrong?
In my life I’ve made a lot of mistakes, and when I choose to avoid the truth, it has always made things worse. When I was little and I broke a window living at home. I lied about it, and my punishment got worse. In college I was a valet, and I scratched a car. At first I ignored it, but then my conscience got the better of me. I admitted my fault, and the owner was grateful for it.
When you ignore the choices you’ve made. You’re holding yourself stagnant. What you choose/did will fill your mind, and you won’t be able to move on. This is part of what your conscience does. It wants you to make things right.
So how do you admit you were wrong?
When you apologize stick to the following rules:
- Admit your choice in the issue
- Say it was a wrong choice
- Apologize for it.
- Ask for forgiveness and options to avoid this issue should it arise again.
- Move On.
What Is A Lawyer Apology?
Recently in the news Senator Chuck Schumer made a statement that threatened a couple of Supreme Court justices.
(I’m not trying to be political, just making a point. This issue is on both sides of the aisle, and I’m just making a point).
Once there was a public outcry against his words, he tried to walk them back. However, if you listen to his “apology” you’ll realize it’s not an apology at all. He’s making justifications for what he said and tried to dilute his angry rant.
This is not how you admit you were wrong. When you apologize and admit you were wrong. Reasons why should not be in it. Also pointing the finger at others is not okay.
Too many times politicians won’t take responsibility for their own actions. You’re the leaders of our country, you wanted the job. If you don’t want the responsibility you shouldn’t take the glory either.
Admit You Were Wrong, And You Might Retain Your Honor
In my experience whenever I’ve screwed something up. It envelopes my mind for quite a while. I never like to admit I made a bad choice because I feel like it affects my leadership negatively. The problem with this thinking is that most of the people around you know (or suspect) that you had something to do with it.
Whenever a group of people works together, these things become common knowledge. And the longer you take to admit it, the worse they will view you.
Face Your Mistakes; And Learn From Them
Everybody screws up. I tell my snowboarding students all the time;
If you’re not falling, you’re not learning. Elijah Sterling/SnoFall Gear
When you stop yourself from facing your mistakes, you allow fear to take hold of your life. No matter how small the matter is, make sure you admit to it.
Mistakes People Make Doing This
- Sometimes People Take The Blame For Others
- Admitting They Were Wrong Blinds Them
Sometimes People Take The Blame For Others
This issue by far one of the weirdest things I’ve ever run across in the business world. I’ll see a boss who makes horrible mistakes constantly get protected by their underlings. I’m not even sure how/why this happens. It’s just weird.
Admitting They Were Wrong Blinds Them
Some people do the right thing, they’ll admit they were wrong. However they’ll become transfixed on the issue, and they’ll never be able to move on from it.
This can be really creepy after a while, and it’s definitely NOT healthy. They get tunnel vision and it stops them from making more decisions.
Admit You Were Wrong
In the end admitting you made a mistake comes down to choices and pride. Once something bad happens and you know you’re at fault. Admit it, acknowledge what went wrong, and move on from it.
Keep in mind, all choices have consequences, and that’s another thing that holds us back from admission of our mistakes.
Facing The Consequences”
When I admitted to my boss that I scratched the car, I thought I was going to lose my job. I agonized about it for an entire day, and finally realized that I had a choice.
- Tell Him And I Get In Trouble
- They Find Out, And I Lose My Job.
Number one wasn’t a guarantee, I knew that I still might lose my job. However Number 2 was definitely a guarantee. So my choice was simple, I’d admit I was wrong, and face whatever consequences may come.
Some of you might be thinking, what a second? There’s a 3rd option here. Keep your mouth shut. While I do agree that was an option, it wasn’t an honorable one. I’ve always believed that I should be a man of honor, who speaks honestly and truthfully. How else do you trust people if they aren’t honest with you?
- Understand when you’re at fault. Take a critical view of the issues.
- Admit your part in it, and your decision in it.
- Don’t give lawyer apologies like many politicians today. People don’t wanna hear that junk.
- Move on, and find solutions to the issues that have been created.
If you follow these steps, many people are going to see you as honorable and as a leader. Great leaders value other peoples opinions and admit they were wrong. Focus on the things you can change, and great things will happen.
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